Sunday, September 12, 2010

We had our first homestudy visit

Last thursday was our first homestudy visit. I think it went well. I really had no idea what to expect. We dressed up a little, even though Josh didn't want to. I'm not sure if it was really necessary or not, but growing up, my dad used to tell me, "First impressions are lasting ones".

We got up super early, to leave at 6 am. Our meeting was at 9, in Birmingham, so we had to drive. And we weren't sure if there would be any traffic, so wanted to have plenty of time.

Our social worker was really nice, I am so glad for that. It would be torture to work with someone who frowned all the time, or was just plain grumpy, but she was very happy.

She asked us very detailed questions about our life, and our marriage, and if we would be able to welcome a new child in. She asked how we problem solved in our marriage and when was the toughest time during our marriage. Luckily for us, the toughest time was in the beginning and got better after children. She said most people have more problems after children. I think it was the other way for us, because we both had to grow up a lot. Well, and maybe a little, cause I'm always too tired now to fight :)

I kept thinking the whole time, "I really hope we pass". I'm not sure if it is a pass or fail kind of thing though. We just tried to be as honest as we could.  I was a little worried though, because we don't have the "perfect" marriage. Things were going real well, until we started this adoption process, then wow! It has been very hard. I really think it is an attack from the enemy. Even though I know that, it is still tough. This morning we had a fight over the silliest thing. I mean, at the time, it doesn't seem so silly. But in 10 years? Yeah, we won't even remember it.

Anyway, so our meeting only lasted 1 1/2 hours. A lot shorter than I expected. We are writing our autobiographies and answering several (very hard) questions about whether we think we will make good parents, are our families behind us, etc. Oh, and the best " how will we handle the dating years". What!!?? Dating? Who said anything about dating, we are just adopting a baby. I don't even want to think about that.

We will have our next meeting when we finish those things.

1 comment:

  1. yes, dating, that was very unexpected. i am so glad it went well!!! Y'all are chugging along nicely!